During Monday night’s Passover Seder, the conversations took various paths, reflecting the concerns of those present. Discussions touched upon mysticism, the ongoing conflict in Gaza, and the ongoing struggle for gender equality. Despite these digressions, the traditional elements of the Seder remained largely intact.
The author, not involved in these tangents, suggested placing an olive on the Seder plate as a silent representation of Palestinian suffering. However, this suggestion was met with disapproval. The group seemed to prioritize simplicity, akin to the suggestion of replacing the egg on the plate with a sheep’s eye to represent social media.
The author acknowledged the human tendency to prioritize one’s own suffering over others, recognizing that this contributes to the current state of the world. Instead of olives or oranges, an empty chair with a picture of Naama Levy, a hostage, was displayed, accompanied by a reading of her admirable qualities. A poem explained that Elijah would not attend this Seder, a traditional figure who is usually welcomed with an open door. This year, the door remained closed, symbolizing Elijah’s preoccupation with comforting those in dire need.
The Seder progressed, and the author, typically a compliant host, found himself compelled to remind the attendees that Jewish people have endured suffering throughout history. While acknowledging the importance of recognizing the current crisis, he emphasized the need to maintain a sense of joy during Passover, a celebration of freedom. He encouraged the group to appreciate the abundance and the presence of loved ones who have thus far been spared from history’s horrors.
The Seder continued with familiar customs, including the singing of “Chad Gadya,” a song about a goat that escaped numerous predators. The author’s favorite part of the Seder, this song provided a sense of resilience amidst the discussions of suffering.
The Seder also evoked memories of past Seders. The author recalled three distinct 20-year periods of these gatherings: at his grandparents’ in Cleveland, at his in-laws’ in Skokie, and at his own home. Each period had its unique characteristics and challenges, highlighting the evolution of traditions and the continuity of family bonds.
The author reflected on the presence of five young people at the Seder, who he anticipated would be married by the next Passover. While the conflict in Gaza cast a shadow over the celebration, the author acknowledged the importance of recognizing both suffering and the hope for resolution. He emphasized that the second Seder, to be held the following night, would provide an opportunity to address any oversights from the first night.
The Seder concluded with prayers, expressing the desire for an end to the conflict and for a better future. The author emphasized that prayer, while recognizing the seemingly impossible, provides a sense of hope in the face of adversity. He ended with a reminder that human efforts and compassion are essential in working towards a peaceful resolution.
