Following the loss of my father several months ago, I have been receiving an overwhelming number of calls from well-meaning relatives. While I appreciate their concern, I am not seeking emotional support or reminiscing about my father at this time.
My relationship with my father was complex, and I am still processing my own emotions. I would prefer to grieve in private and focus on my own well-being. I have tried to politely convey my need for space, but my callers seem to believe that I am not yet ready to discuss my feelings.
I am concerned that their continued calls are hindering my grieving process. I am seeking a polite way to express that I truly do not have a need to talk about my father’s passing and that there is no need to continue checking in on me. I want to maintain a respectful relationship with my family, but I also need to prioritize my own emotional well-being.
Additionally, I have been deeply upset by two incidents where close friends have criticized me behind my back. They shared anecdotes about an annoying friend who exhibited behaviors that I recognized as my own. It was only later that I realized they were referring to me. This has left me feeling betrayed and embarrassed.
I am uncertain how to address these situations and would appreciate any guidance Miss Manners can provide.
