Squirting during sex, often depicted in adult films, can be a source of curiosity and even frustration for women who haven’t experienced it. While it’s certainly not a requirement for enjoyable sex, if you’re interested in exploring this aspect of your sexuality, know that it’s achievable with the right approach.
Here are five simple tips from Dr. Danae Maragouthakis, a sexual health expert, to help you on your journey to squirting:
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Create the Right Environment:
Just like any sexual act, setting the right mood is crucial. Communication is key. Discuss your desires, boundaries, and concerns with your partner. Let them know your intention to try squirting and be open about the potential time it may take. This allows for a relaxed and supportive atmosphere where both of you feel comfortable exploring.
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Focus on Foreplay:
Dr. Maragouthakis emphasizes the importance of prolonged foreplay to build arousal gradually. This can involve kissing, caressing, and exploring each other’s bodies with both hands and mouths. Remember to stimulate erogenous zones, which include areas like the perineum, bellybutton, neck, lower back, ears, hands, fingertips, inner thighs, and even more niche ones like the scalp, behind the knee, ankles, armpits, and inner wrists. Stimulating these zones creates an intense and pleasurable experience for both partners.
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Target the G-spot:
The G-spot, located on the anterior wall of the vagina along the course of the urethra, plays a crucial role in squirting. To stimulate it, use fingers, curved toys, or sex positions that target this area. Apply gentle pressure and strokes, experimenting to discover what feels good for you. Remember, it might take time for your body to adjust to this newfound sensation.
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Generously Apply Lube:
Dry sex can be uncomfortable, especially when trying to squirt. Lubrication is essential for enhancing comfort and pleasure during stimulation. It reduces friction and allows for smoother movements, particularly during G-spot stimulation. If using a condom, opt for a water-based lubricant as oil-based ones can damage the condom.
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Enjoy Yourself:
The most important tip is to relax and enjoy the experience. Don’t put pressure on yourself to squirt. Remember that sex is meant to be enjoyable and fun, or romantic and sensual, whatever you prefer. Don’t get frustrated if it doesn’t happen immediately, it may take some practice. If you don’t squirt, it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. You’re a real person having realistic sex, and that’s perfectly okay.
