My husband has a habit of using excessive profanity, which I find extremely embarrassing in social situations. It becomes even more concerning when our children, aged six and eight, start mimicking him. One particular incident at school resulted in my son facing disciplinary action for calling a classmate a derogatory term. While I was mortified, my husband found it amusing.
I have tried addressing this issue with my husband on multiple occasions, but he becomes defensive, claiming it’s harmless and an intrinsic part of his character. He also accuses me of being embarrassed by his lack of refinement compared to my family and me. I have observed my mother’s discomfort when he uses particularly vulgar language, but he seems oblivious to it.
The situation has become increasingly frustrating, especially since our children are now using similar language. I understand that my husband’s behavior may stem from his upbringing, but I believe it’s important to set respectful boundaries for our children and to avoid causing offense to others.
I am at a loss for what to do. I’m unsure if I should continue trying to persuade my husband to change his behavior or simply accept it as a part of his personality. I also worry about the potential consequences for our children’s social and emotional development.
Any advice or insights on how to approach this issue would be greatly appreciated.
