Being cheated on is a painful experience, but one man found himself in a particularly infuriating situation when his unfaithful partner made a shocking request. After discovering his girlfriend’s affair with a mutual high school acquaintance, he was left reeling. The relationship had ended badly, but his ex seemed unconcerned with finding her own living arrangements. “She said she was moving out, but I noticed she hadn’t packed anything and did not seem concerned about living arrangements. I had a gut feeling there was more to this,” he explained on Reddit’s ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum.
He reluctantly agreed to stay in the apartment with her for the remaining two months of their lease, a situation he found deeply frustrating. The man continued: “We had 2 bedrooms, she moved into the other one. She seemed agitated that I hadn’t left. Finally, she started an enormous fight that got so bad I had to leave and stay with a relative for the weekend.”
While he was away, his apartment management contacted him, revealing that his ex was planning to let him out of the lease, with a new roommate taking his place. The twist? This “new roommate” was the man she had cheated on him with. He was enraged: “That person she was moving in was the person she cheated on me with. I paid for all the furniture in there. I paid for the bulk of our bills. If she wanted a new start with this person, they needed to pay for it themselves, not do it off of my back.”
Taking advantage of a clause in the lease that prevented anyone from moving in without his permission, he refused. “Spitefully, I was willing to pay the next 2 months of rent to not give them that,” he admitted. “It worked, their plans were ruined and they had to leave. I know I had somewhere safe to stay, but I was so done being used and manipulated.”
He then turned to Reddit for judgment, asking if he was in the wrong for his actions. The comments were divided. Some users expressed concern about the man’s past boundaries in the relationship, asking if his ex genuinely believed he would simply leave the apartment and all of his belongings. He admitted: “Yes, and that’s probably my fault. I was really bad in the past with drawing boundaries with her, and she had done similar things before and gotten away with it.”
Others applauded his decision and his newfound strength: “You’re the a
hole to yourself for allowing the girl to use and abuse you. Block her and move on.” Another commenter said, “He allowed it in the past but that doesn’t make him an a
hole, he was a victim but now he’s got stronger boundaries, better self-respect, and isn’t being a punching bag anymore and that deserves celebration. Leaving abusers/not tolerating their abuse is so hard and he’s done incredibly well with this incident.”Ultimately, many Redditors agreed that the man deserved better and praised his decision to stand up for himself. “You deserve so much better than her. You will be better off without her,” one Redditor commented. Another fumed, “Your ex sounds like one of those people who just expect things to always be resolved in their favour. Good for you for not giving in. She can cheat. She can end the relationship. But she doesn’t get to dictate how everything plays out. People like her sometimes forget that part.”
