A recent study, conducted by Ourtime, a dating app for over 50s, has brought to light a surprising and empowering revelation: a quarter of women feel more comfortable in themselves after experiencing menopause. This significant life stage, often associated with hormonal changes and physical symptoms, has been found to be a period of self-discovery and confidence for many women.
While 24% of the 1,000 women surveyed dreaded menopause, 18% found it to be a time when they could finally focus on their own wants and desires. This newfound freedom has led to increased confidence (18%) and a sense of carefree ease (23%) in many women.
The study also delved into the impact of menopause on relationships. Of the single women surveyed, 16% reported being more likely to ask for what they want in a relationship because of the increased self-awareness they gained during menopause. However, 23% of single women expressed concern about the potential effect of menopause on their dating lives. Surprisingly, 26% of these women found that their worries were unfounded, with the average menopausal singleton going on three dates since the start of menopause. Furthermore, 35% reported enjoying most of their dates.
For women in existing relationships, 46% found no significant changes in their romantic connections since the onset of menopause. A significant majority (46%) felt confident in being open with their partners about their experiences with menopause, and 54% believe that honest conversations about this topic would help both men and women navigate this life stage more effectively.
The study also highlighted some common misconceptions surrounding menopause. Before experiencing menopause, many women believed they would no longer be able to get pregnant, inevitably gain weight, and suffer from constant hot flushes. However, the reality is much more nuanced, with many women experiencing diverse and individual experiences.
One of the most universally welcomed aspects of menopause is the end of periods (62% of respondents were happy to say goodbye to them). Another benefit cited by 29% of women was the cessation of Pre-Menstrual Syndrome.
Overall, the study suggests that menopause can be a time of significant change and empowerment for women. It encourages women to embrace this stage of life with a renewed sense of self-assurance and to seek support and education to navigate the experience with confidence.
Kate Taylor, dating and relationships expert for Ourtime, emphasized the importance of self-care and shared some tips for dating during menopause:
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Find date-friendly exercise:
Engaging in enjoyable activities like dancing, tennis, or hiking can be beneficial for both physical and mental well-being and can provide opportunities to meet new people.*
Start a new hobby:
Pursuing a hobby can boost confidence, expand your social circle, and give you engaging topics to discuss on dates.*
Embrace singles events:
Attending singles events offers a fun way to connect with people of similar age and interests.*
Resist reassurance:
It’s important to be honest about your feelings and needs without relying too heavily on your partner for reassurance.*
Reveal information gradually:
Sharing personal details on a “need to know” basis can prevent vulnerability if the relationship doesn’t progress.*
Give partners room to help:
Don’t hesitate to ask for support from a partner, as they often want to be helpful.Ourtime is committed to supporting women throughout menopause by providing resources and information. They have created a Meno-Power Guide to empower women and help them feel optimistic about the future.
