My second date with John, a man I met online, started off with a promising brunch in Bristol. I’d traveled all the way from London, excited to see him again after a few weeks of online chats. But things took a turn for the worse when, within the first hour, John announced that he wasn’t sure if this was working out. He was too nervous to say anything before I arrived, especially since I’d come such a long way. My initial shock quickly turned to anger, and I found myself questioning his intentions. It was clear he wasn’t interested in making this work.
We decided to try and salvage the date, heading to his local pub. However, things took another unexpected turn when, while at his house, we found ourselves engaged in a very awkward and unsatisfying sexual encounter. To make matters worse, John even went on to say I reminded him of his ex. By this point, I was completely done.
Stuck in Bristol with no bus until morning, I decided to put my anger aside and see if John was actually a decent guy. We ended up having a few drinks at the pub as friends, and I even made some new connections. But as the night wore on, I realized I needed to get out of there. I contacted a friend of mine, Ethan, who lived a couple of hours away and asked him to rescue me.
To my surprise, John was distraught when I told him about Ethan’s arrival, begging me not to leave. But my mind was made up. I’d had enough.
I’m grateful for what happened because it taught me a valuable lesson: trust your instincts. When something feels off, it’s okay to walk away. As for John, I never heard from him again. And as for Ethan, we’ve actually remained friends all these years.
This experience reminded me to be cautious when it comes to dating, especially when venturing into unknown territory. I’ve learned that it’s okay to be selective and to prioritize my own well-being. It’s important to remember that not every date will be perfect, and sometimes, the best thing to do is walk away.
