According to a recent survey, 91% of men and 94% of women believe dating is hard. Despite this, there are many incorrect assumptions being made about what women (and men) truly want. The most important thing for both sexes is to be kind. While some people may have been indulging in casual sex and flings prior to the pandemic, lockdown was a ‘reckoning’ for singles and helped us to understand what our values truly were. Social media can also contribute to these warped assumptions, as users can be sent down rabbit holes of fairly extreme views on relationships. However, it is important to remember that we should not blame the apps themselves, but rather our own lack of critical thinking. Ultimately, if we want to have successful dates, we need to prioritize our own well-being. This will allow us to show our true colors and attract others who are emotionally secure.