As someone who doesn’t typically drink at home, I found it quite easy to abstain from alcohol during the months when we were confined to our homes. While many embraced the opportunity to imbibe at home, I remained completely sober from January to April 2021. The real challenge, however, emerged when life began to return to normalcy, and pubs, bars, and social gatherings became a regular part of my routine. Intrigued by the idea of self-imposed challenge, I questioned how difficult it would be to resist the allure of alcohol.
To my surprise, I found it much easier than anticipated, even if my companions weren’t entirely supportive of my choice. During this period of teetotalism, the British drinking culture became strikingly apparent. One evening, I witnessed a middle-aged woman stumbling out of a pub, falling off a chair, and hitting her head on the concrete floor. Despite the impact, she laughed it off, stood up, and took another gulp of her white wine. I winced, having been in a similar state of inebriation myself in the past.
Late-night venues offer a particularly sobering perspective on the pervasive influence of alcohol. I’ve witnessed countless instances of fights instigated without reason, inappropriate touching in public spaces, and the disconcerting vacant stare of those who’ve consumed beyond their limits. Some friends urged me to join them in drinking for the sake of having ‘fun.’ ‘I can have fun without drinking,’ I’d reply with a smirk. I remained my outgoing and sociable self, enjoying the company of others without succumbing to the effects of alcohol, allowing me to leave at a reasonable hour.
My past experiences, particularly during my younger years working in a bar in Covent Garden, were often marred by excessive drinking that made it challenging to get home. When asked if I felt any different as a result of abstaining, I’d playfully respond, ‘I don’t feel any different, but I’m sure my insides love me.’ While I didn’t experience clearer skin or weight loss, my liver undoubtedly appreciated the respite, and my bank balance felt the positive impact.
While drinking culture remains prevalent, I’ve embraced a more discerning approach to alcohol consumption, viewing it as a choice rather than an automatic response. This shift in mindset is perhaps the most significant change. So, why have I returned to the occasional drink? Because I genuinely enjoy a good margarita, a fine glass of wine, or a half-pint of beer. However, I’m still able to go out and have a good time without needing alcohol. The choice is mine, and I embrace the freedom it affords.
