Em Clarkson, Metro’s agony aunt, is back with insightful advice on navigating the complexities of relationships. This week, she tackles two pressing concerns: how to disclose an incurable STI to a new partner and how to let go of the need to control every aspect of your life.
Disclosing an STI
One reader shares her anxieties about revealing her herpes diagnosis to a new partner. Em encourages honesty and emphasizes that herpes is more common than people realize. She advises disclosing the information upfront, before any sexual activity, to avoid surprises and ensure both partners feel informed and safe. While initial reactions might involve processing and research, Em believes that honesty is the best policy and that a genuine partner will appreciate your openness.
Releasing Control
Another reader seeks guidance on how to let go of her need to control every situation, particularly in the context of an upcoming hen party. Em recognizes that controlling tendencies often stem from early experiences with responsibility and a desire to ensure everything goes smoothly. However, she encourages embracing the imperfections of others and understanding that everyone operates at their own pace. Instead of focusing on what people *should* be doing, Em advises finding joy in their efforts and celebrating their individuality.
Lessons in Acceptance
Throughout her response, Em encourages self-reflection and acceptance. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries while recognizing that human behavior is inherently unpredictable. By accepting that not everyone will meet our expectations, we can free ourselves from unnecessary disappointment and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Ultimately, the key is to focus on what we can control – our own thoughts, feelings, and actions – and allow others to be themselves.
Em Clarkson offers a compassionate and insightful voice for those seeking guidance on navigating the complexities of modern relationships. Her advice encourages honesty, self-awareness, and acceptance, paving the way for more fulfilling and authentic connections.
