Growing up, I often wondered why my mother didn’t leave my father, who was physically and verbally abusive. I desperately wanted to stop the violence, but as a child, I felt powerless. Years later, I realized that I wasn’t asking the right questions. The real question was: ‘What do you call it when you grow up witnessing domestic violence?’
The term ‘childhood domestic violence’ (CDV) offers a name for this often overlooked experience. Many people mistakenly believe that simply witnessing violence doesn’t have a significant impact. However, the truth is that CDV has profound, lasting consequences for individuals.
Just like other adverse childhood experiences, such as physical abuse or parental incarceration, CDV needs to be acknowledged and addressed. The lack of awareness surrounding CDV means that many individuals who have experienced it struggle to understand their feelings, find support, and move forward. They may feel isolated and alone, believing that their experiences aren’t valid.
The book and film ‘It Ends With Us’ shed light on the devastating impact of domestic violence on both adults and children. This story highlights the need for a greater understanding of CDV and the importance of providing validation and support to those affected.
One of the key steps towards healing from CDV is awareness. Recognizing that experiencing violence as a child is a form of trauma allows individuals to begin the process of understanding their experiences and seeking help. It also empowers them to break the cycle of violence and create healthier relationships.
If you grew up witnessing domestic violence, know that you are not alone. This experience can have lasting effects on your relationships, self-esteem, and mental well-being. However, with awareness, support, and the right tools, you can heal and build a fulfilling life.
‘It Ends With Us’ can serve as a catalyst for greater awareness of CDV. By acknowledging the impact of this hidden form of trauma, we can create a society that offers support and understanding to those who have experienced it. The journey to healing starts with recognizing the truth and seeking the help you need.
